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Monday, December 3, 2007

First Date, First Kiss - Secret Reveal!

Hey Guys, I am back..Sorry for keeping you all waiting..I have prepared some good stuff for you guys..what I have here, you guys going to love this.

It's all about dating girls - Secret Reveal
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There is a girl I met online in Myspace, I was chatting with her on Myspace, Then out of my curiousity I ask her " How you feel or think about First Date, First Kiss "

And guess what... we just met online and she is feeling comfortable with me and will to share her story for me. First Date, First Kiss Experienced. Ok.. without further delay.. Let's discover the secrets on getting first kiss on the fisrt date...

Below is the private message she sent it to me at my myspace account, telling me how she feel and experienced during on her first date with her guy.

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#Have you read it? Just a simple question to get her kiss? Wow...

-Have you ever think of doing that?
-What are you waiting for? Is time to act my friend...
(Get more detail on The Secrets of Arousing Women)

It's really work. Words from the girl herself.. so, you should start believing there is still hope for you to get your dream girls.

Best Regards,

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Tuesday, November 20, 2007

Secrets Of Arousing A Woman - Part 3

Why it's good you studied sine and cosine waves in High School And once you've kissed - STOP. That's right. Go back to the fun you were having like nothing happened. She'll wonder what the hell's going on.

Of course, you know you're just TEASING her. By pushing forward and then stepping back, you're increasing the sexual tension. Suddenly SHE'S the one thinking about sex - not in the serious Could-I-Marry-Him way, but in the Does-He-Like-Me? way. When you fill in your next silence with another kiss, you should take it a little further. Then draw back a bit. And then take it a bit further.

See where this is going?

You want to ratchet up the sexual tension until she is WANTING to go further, faster than you're going. Keep playful. Make her beg (not in a mean way - remember, this should be FUN for BOTH of you). Before you know it, you'll both be naked and putting the lambada to shame.

If you go too fast and she is uncomfortable, back off a bit and build her up. The key is making sure she WANTS the next step before you get there. This means taking your time. Go slow. Pay attention to all the parts of her body (the erogenous zone is anywhere on the body, as long as you take your time and stimulate it).

Surprise her now and again - give her a tickle when she expects a caress. Peck her cheek and lean back when she expects a french kiss. Ever-so-slowly undress her, but when her bra is off, say "Oh, you look cold"playfully and put her cardigan over her shoulders and lean back with a mischievous grin.

Get it?
You're only Man.
Now this isn't as easy to practice until you're regularly getting women in your bedroom, so I'm going to give you an odd exercise here to simulate the control you need. Remember when you've been masturbated by an experienced woman, or imagine being masturbated by one. Many of us know this feeling, so we might as well use it.

She moves forward with your arousal - but then stops or slows down. She doesn't just go with the usual linear build to a crescendo. Instead, she takes her time to go in waves, with each crest a bit higher than the last. When she finally gets you to orgasm, chances are it'll be better than the usual. That's how you want to treat her.

The ladies will thank you for taking the time to enjoy the moment, instead of simply aiming for the splat. Enjoy this knowledge, because not only is it the key to properly arousing her, but it's the key to great sex as well. Use it wisely. If you want to learn more about the keys to making yourself into the most incredible lover she's ever had, then you'll want to check out

- End -
Cya Guys Soon, All The Best!

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Secrets Of Arousing A Woman‏ - Part 2

Listen, OBVIOUSLY you want to score. If you didn't, you wouldn't go to the trouble of wooing this lady, or setting the right mood, or reading this book even.

But you can't let that be your OBVIOUS DIRECT goal when you're in the process. You need to concentrate on the PROCESS, and your GOAL should be as slick as you can.

Do that, and yeah, the sex will come (woohoo!), but if all you worry about is the sex that gets telegraphed to your lady in the worst possible way. So, again, RELAXED playfulness is the key. While you are sexually cuing her you don't want it to be overtly SEXUAL, as we've discussed before. You want it to be FUN.

The mistake most men make when they try to turn up the notch is they suddenly get too SERIOUS. Think about it. Imagine yourself in a first kiss. How often are either of you smiling as you go into it in your head? Admit it. Not much. Most likely your imagination has you both laughing, catching each others' eye, sobering up with a soulful look, and then a lustful lip-lock.

Listen, it can work that way. Just like people can fall in love at first sight. However, when you get SERIOUS at this crucial moment you cause her to think SERIOUSLY about it. Suddenly she's switched into "Is he mate material?" mode and, unless you've got a deep spiritual connection going, she's gonna have some doubts.

You don't want doubts. You don't want all those somber questions floating around. Hell, it's just a kiss! Stop treating it like a life-long pairing. Keep it RELAXED.
Keep it PLAYFUL. Keep it FUN.

So no, don't be brave about the kiss. If it takes that much bravado, you've already built it up too much. Treat it like you've been there before. Like a natural extension of the fun you're having. And not like you're entering some new chapter in a saga, but just part of the path.

Trust me, this works.

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Secrets Of Arousing Women - Part 1

Going forward, and back, and making her want it. Sometimes the kiss is harder to get to than others - but you can still find it if you know how to act. And once you've started arousing her, finding sexual fulfillment is simple matter of staying PLAYFUL.

Finding the Elusive Kiss

So you've been touching your lady in a non-threatening, playful, and sexually stimulating way. You're ready to go (natch), and she seems into you, but for whatever reason, the CHANCE never seems to come.

The kiss-me look never quite materializes, or it comes at just the wrong time (her cell phone rings, for example). She's shy and never gives you a good head-to-head look from which you can lean into it (and twisting around her craned neck is NOT sexy). Whatever. It happens.

What can you do?
Well, one thing that works all by itself almost ALWAYS is this:

Take Control

Gently but firmly take hold of her chin between your thumb and index finger. Move her head to face you. Think sex scene in a movie. Chances are she'll melt then and there and you won't have to say a thing.

HOWEVER, sometimes you'll have a woman who wants to PROVE just how strong she is, or how cool she is, or she'll just be so nervous that she'll actually pull away slightly even though she WANTS to be kissed.

What do you do? Be straightforward: say "Do you want me to kiss you?" If she says yes or nothing, just do it. If she says maybe, say "Let's find out." and do it. And if she says no - unlikely given the build-up you've gone through to get here - say "I didn't say you could - you just looked like you had something on your mind." in a playful teasing tone. Don't act let down - you were just PLAYING with her. Get it? Wow, that was easy. Be bold by not caring You need to be BOLD here - although bold isn't the right word. Bold suggests you are doing something DESPITE doubting yourself or the result. It suggests a bravery that you want to erase. WHAT?!! I don't want you to be BRAVE? That's right. I want you not to care.

To be continue Part 2...

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Wednesday, November 14, 2007

First date, First Kiss! - Part 1

Hey guys, just want to share some of my recent success stories with dating girls...

Recently, I had dated 3 different girls.

So, you guys must be thinking what so proud about that!

Well, Is nothing proud actually... Is just that:

Out of 3 girls.. I manage to kiss 2 of them on the first date. Wow!

How about that?

The first one, Name A, 28 years old from other state in my country. She came to my town for her company annual dinner. Well we hangout at one of the happening pub & bistro near around my area. I knew her from the internet Zorpia network. All the while we just chatting on msn and sms each others.

OK.. straight to the point.. That night..was wonderful.. I am doing some cocky and funny chatting with her.. attaching some nice touch on her body.. stroking her hair, pinching her arms, and the next thing i remember is we are dancing in the dance first she was abit shy.. but i take care of that.. holding her hands.. dancing, turn her on steps by step.. holding her waist.. playing around on her waist.. hugging her, smile on her.. eye to eye contact.. finally.. cuddling.. and she was turn on and putting her hands over my shoulder.. and i lean on her and give her the magic kiss.. until she asking for more :P

Well guys, lots of my friends besides me asking
"you 2 is couple right? i said.. well.. Nope.."

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Oh Ya.. I'll continue my success story with the 2nd girls later... promise..
(I got to get back to my work.. In the office right now :P)

Cya guys later...

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Saturday, November 10, 2007

How to make her CRAZY for you - Part 2

Angelion: Hey Guys... How was the previous tips? Have you use it?

Here are the second part of "How to make her CRAZY for you!" Enjoy :)

Example #4: Some women like to touch a guy while they talk.
When a woman touches you on the leg, say in a serious tone,
"May you stop touching my leg?" Then when she seems thrown
off, say "Well, if you want to touch me, I would enjoy it
even more if you would touch me a little bit closer..."

Example #5: Let's say you're cuddling or making out with her,
try to smell her neck, kiss her, etc but then SUDDENLY STOP.
She's going to be all hot and bothered and ask you what's
wrong, etc. She may even put her arms around you to
try you to get back to it. After a few seconds, start making
out with her again...but more fiercely this time. This is a
VERY good way to advance through her boundaries.

Example #6: Be unpredictable. While sitting on a bench on a
date, suddenly pull her up and then give her a hug. Then
you say "I just wanted to hug you." If she asks you why,
say "Cause I felt like it." playfully or "I wanted to see
if you'd feel good to hug." If she asks you if you think
she's good, just say "Well, I think I need a second
try first..."

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Wednesday, November 7, 2007

How to make her Crazy For You! - Part 1

Hmmm.. How to make a woman get crazy for you? or even more...
* The answers is " Teasing "

What is " Teasing "?

1. Making fun of a girl playfully
2. Arousing her and then pulling back

Basically, is to give her a "mixed signal"
Keep her wondering if you like her or not with
your words and body language.

Example 1: Instead of telling her you like her, you say "you
really like me" in a teasing manner. If you say "I really like
you", she may reject you on the spot because if it's direct
and blatant. But if you say "You really like me" PLAYFULLY,
then you can get away with it because you're just joking.

You may also accuse her of hugging you or kissing you a lot.
And then you give her a hug or kiss back. This will leave her
wondering if you're really attracted to her or not. Women
love MINDGAMES. They love to pick petals off a rose and say,
"He loves me, he loves me not"

Example 2: You can make fun of something small about her
(don't overdo it though). For example, say one of her earlobes
is lower than the other PLAYFULLY. (Being PLAYFUL is the key)
She will probably go like "No it's not!" Then you look into her
eyes and say, "It's all right, you're still pretty."

Example #3: Give her a personal nickname or tease her about
something that is special to both of you. Like if something
funny or interesting happens while on a date, use it to your

(Angelion says.. I personally use the e.g.3. Is quite powerful..)

To be continue...

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Sunday, November 4, 2007

Building "Connection" with a Woman - Part 2

Step two - Isolate Her from Her Friends

Once she’s giving you signs of interest, you'll want to get her AWAY from her friends.
While you needed to engage her entire group of friends to establish your social value, once you have it, her friends will actually HINDER the coming Bond and Connection phase of the seduction.

To establish that deep rapport of bond and connection, you'll need to get the girl ALONE and talk with her one-on-one.
Separating her from her friends is rather easy to accomplish.
First tell the Object of Your Desire (OYD), “Hey, I have the coolest thing I’ve just got to show you this…”

This is a curiosity hook. She’ll ask you, “What is it?”
Tell her that you can’t show her here… it’s too loud or that you need to show her in private.
Now she’ll go with you, if you simply lead her. But you can’t take her just yet.
You still have to neutralize any potential objections from her peer group that you’ll be stealing her away from them.

Tell her group of friends, “Your friend and I like each other. I’m going to just borrow her for a few minutes. That’s cool with you guys.”
Telling her group, “Your friend and I like each other,” may seem bold, but it's actually based on cold fact at this point. She’s given you repeated signs of interest (I like you) and you’ve screened and accepted her (I like you back).
So when you tell her friends, “Your friend and I like each other,” the Object of Your Desire will give you no resistance.

Telling her group, “I’m going to just borrow her for a few minutes,” simply paces the action so that they won't be surprised when she disappears... and won't go looking for her when she does.
And telling the group, “That’s cool with you guys,” gets her group’s verbal, explicit permission for you to snatch her away and neutralizes any cock-blocking they might otherwise give you. If you’ve already demonstrated social value to the group, it’s highly unlikely that her friends will say no.

Step three - Building Bond and Connection

Now that you have her separated from her group, take her by the hand and lead her to a quieter place in the club.
Now’s the time to build that intimate sense of bond and connection with her. Why will it work now?

1. You already have social value to her.
2. She likes you. She’s been giving you signs of interest.
3. She knows you like her and that she had to work to earn your interest (screening and acceptance).
Now you need to show her that you’re not just an interesting club guy, but that you’re a REAL HUMAN BEING.

First, SIT DOWN with her.
Second, DROP the social value building techniques of social proofing, teasing, ignoring, balls busting, zany stories, psychological games, cocky posturing, and all that.
You ALREADY have HIGH social value to her. Doing more will just slow things down at best, trip things up at worst.

The point of Bond and Connection is to show her that you’re a NORMAL guy, not just a club guy. You’re about to reveal to her a little bit of your true, inner SOUL.
Third, once you have her isolated and sitting down with you, adjust your Nonverbal Sexual Cues.

Project the energy of sharing your soul and deep intimacy with her. Imagine that you’ve known this girl forever and she’s already your girlfriend. Imagine a tangible energy between the two of your bodies, like an electric current.
Your Nonverbal Sexual Cues will automatically adjust to the new frame - bedroom eyes, smiling up close, deep eye contact, your body and face completely turned toward hers, slow breathing, husky voice, and warm body heat.

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Wednesday, October 31, 2007

Building "Connection" with a Woman - Step 1

Angelion:" I personally found out that below tips is quite useful.. You can use it " Right Away "

Virtually all women want to feel an intimate sense of bond and connection with their man in a relationship.
So a lot of guys naturally attempt to establish that sense of bond and connection with a girl right away.

They approach a girl at a bookstore or club and attempt to establish deep rapport right away by eliciting her values or doing an incredible connection routine.
Unfortunately, they walk away brushed off by the girl and scratching their heads as to what they did wrong.

What went wrong is that they tried to establish an intimate bond and connection TOO SOON.
Yes, getting deep rapport with a girl is necessary - eventually.
But NOT at the first moment you meet her.
If you try for bond, connection, and deep rapport at the first moment you meet a girl, it will blow up in your face.

Because you don’t have enough Social Value to the girl yet.
It’s not that women don’t like that building that sense of bond and connection with a man. They LIKE it. They WANT it.
They just want to do it with a man with equal or higher social value than themselves.
If you jump directly into Bond and Connection (B&C) routines and material right away without establishing any social value first, you’ll just come across as another “nice guy”.

Step one - Build Social Value with a Girl
First, you have to build your social value to the girl. As I’ve discussed in detail before, there are many ways of doing this:
1. Social proof - she sees you talking with other hot girls

2. Nonverbal Sexual Cues - good voice, strong body language, eye contact, etc.

3. Ignoring social pressure - you walk right up to her, ignore everybody else extremely confident and brash

4. Your visual style - how you're dressed, groomed, etc

5. Demonstrating value obliquely - winning over her friends, telling cool stories, palm reading, etc

6. Disqualifying yourself - ignoring her in front of her friends

7. Screening her - make her earn your acceptance
Once you’re in her group of friends, have built social value for yourself, and screened her and accepted her, she’ll begin giving you signs of interest – touching you, smiling at you, turning her body to face you, attempt to initiate conversation with you, and so on.
This is the point – once you know she likes you – that you want to establish that deep, intimate, bond and connection with her.

To be continue... Step 2

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Tuesday, October 30, 2007

How to Flirt on the Net For Men - Part 2

Be honest! If you don't look like Mel Gibson, why say you do? You might as well take the risk to find out if she is interested in who you really are. She will be very angry at you if she finds out later you have mislead her ABOUT ANYTHING.
Be truthful about your intentions with her at this stage. If you are not looking for a romance, don't pretend to be. If you have other important relationships on the net or in life, TELL HER NOW before the situation escalates, otherwise there are bound to be hurt feelings. Ask her the same questions about her love life and intentions. Reveal something about yourself FIRST. THEN ask her to do the same.
In the second stage, Be first to tell her how you feel. In the long run she'll respect and trust you more for being open and honest.

As you move through the levels of the second stage , if possible, let her take the lead toward becoming more intimate. If she initiates deeper levels, you will know that this is what she truly desires, and it will allow her to feel more in control of the situation. If she feels in charge she's less likely to become afraid of more intensity.
If she is shy, you can still help her feel in control by inviting her rather than taking her down the path of Cyber-Seduction. Ask her: Tell me about what you're wearing? This is better than asking her, What are you wearing? (if you haven't reached this level of intimacy yet.)

If you've gotten to the cyber-seduction stage three, you may be speaking very directly about sex and sensuality. Remember, all of the above rules still apply, and a few more come into play. First, her sense of choice may be different from yours. You may want her to paint pictures for you. You may ask her to describe what she looks like, what she's wearing and other visual descriptions. This may do nothing for her. She may want to hear words that turn her on. Or she may want to feel through descriptions of sensations. She may initially prefer one modality, and then another as things heat up. Get to know yourself and your lady and you'll be able to play her like a fine violin.

Here's an example of how the different senses can be used. One simple act (escalating the action at a dinner table), can be handled in a multitude of ways:
Visual Sensation: ....I push away the dinner plates and lift you onto the table. I can see from the look in your eyes that you are mine. Your red lips part with longing...
Sound Sensation: ....I can almost hear you purr --- I know I can't wait any longer, "You are mine' I whisper. Shoving away the dinner plates, I don't care who hears us now, "You are my most sinful dessert' I sigh....
Touch Sensation: ...I reach under the white linen tablecloth, my hand slides teasingly slowly up your trembling thigh. You let me gently part your legs as your moist heat attracts my fingers like a thousand invisible magnets...

May not smell as sweet. What kind of words does she use to describe body parts or acts of love? Does she like poetic & colorful innuendo, or graphic dirty words and explicit descriptions? One false step in this department can cause weeks of delicate feelings to unravel in a moment. Find out what she likes before you find yourself typing away like a wild man in the heat of action.
Erotic and (porno) graphic are very opposing styles. The different impact of these two approaches is considerable. She may not respond to one, whereas she may be delighted by the other.

Here is an example of an erotic approach: hands find their way to the source of your desire, awakening an almost forgotten longing....
Graphic approach: (....maybe I'll just let you imagine this one....!)
Don't assume you know her tastes -- ask her. It may sound a little clinical, but that's where the great lovers are separated from the crowd. Get good at eliciting her love-strategy in a way that is fun, provocative and passionate.

If you've been having a Cyber Love affair, you may be wondering about taking it to the next level of reality. Assuming that you are both single and available, you may be curious to speak on the phone or even meet in person. WARNING: Are you willing to let go of a fantasy in order to have a real life experience? If the answer is yes, and you are willing to accept any possible outcome, then you know what you need to do next. Call her! If it goes well, get on an airplane!!!
But be honest with yourself. Are you ready to have your life (which you have some control over as long as you are at the keyboard) disrupted? Are you ready, willing and able to face the fact that the goddess you have been imagining and sweet chatting is different from a living, breathing, real woman? Real women have real needs, hopes and dreams. But if you're ready for reality...

Until Next Time...

Saturday, October 27, 2007

How to Flirt on the Net For Men - Part 1

The same rules of gentlemanly conduct that apply in life, apply on the Net. Woman want to be treated well. Respect her and you'll be a winner. Offend her, and you're out of the game.

Although there are some women who are looking for a casual one-net stand, most women want a Cyber-Seduction to grow out of a friendship. If you can create a comfortable & safe place, chances are she'll want to play more. Even the most sensuous encounters are still all about creating relationships. They may not be permanent, they may not have the deepest emotional intimacy, but the guidelines for good relating apply to Cyber- Love as well.

Different rules apply for each stage of seduction . Recognize what stage of the seduction you're in: First Stage: Making Contact. Second Stage: Flirting and Courtship. Third Stage: Cyber-Seduction. Success comes to the man who recognizes what stage he is in.

The first stage is making contact and determining if the woman is interested in your attention. At this initial stage most woman are still in the no thank you mode. This is not the best time to start sending her direct, sexual private messages, because she is still in the no stage. Establish a friendly connection first. Make sure she really wants to play before you escalate the game.
Assuming you have determined that she is responding to you, the next step is establishing a connection that is personal to the two of you. The art of the first stage is knowing how to make it personal without making it too personal. It requires sensitivity to know where her boundaries are at each stage.

The best flirtation is like a good game of tennis. Both players return volleys. If she is not responding at your pace, SLOW DOWN. There is no point in trying to `ace' her at this stage in the game. Be interested in her, who she is, not what she is! Ask questions, but don't make her feel like she's the subject of a `60 Minutes' interview. Never ask questions about her body parts, or her dimensions unless she's willing to volunteer that level of information. Ask open-ended questions like how do you feel about....? what do you like best about...? -- rather than closed questions like Do you like Classical music? Those kind of questions tend to lead to yes or no answers, perhaps bringing the conversation to a halt. Keep the game going. Always respond to her, never let a comment or question go by unanswered. If you don't have an answer, speak up (softly). Don't just be silent. Remember, she can't read your mind. It's easier to keep the connection going than it is to re-start it.

To be continue...

Thursday, October 25, 2007

What to do and not do when flirting with your date

Use Your Whole BodyTalking
The talk without walking the walk is utterly ineffective. Try telling a woman she's beautiful or a guy he's hunky and then shift your eyes away, and see if you're believed. Flirty body language begins with eyes and works its way all the way down to tips of your footsies. Lean forward, make eye contact, smile, bend your knees a bit and untense your hands and arms. Remember to relax a bit; this should be fun, not defusing a bomb.

Make Eye Contact
Looking someone in the eyes is very compelling. And it makes a person feel like they've got your're undivided attention, which they should.

Smile, don't smirk
There's a reason why synonyms for smirk include sneer, leer and grimace. It's an unattractive and unpleasant expression. Avoid it. Smile openly and sincerely - it's irresistible.

Pay Attention
No looking like you're trying to remember if you fed the cat.

Lighten Up, Don't Bulldoze
Telling your date they're incredibly hot isn't flirting. It's steering your dating experience directly into a mountain.

Don't think you can't do it
Anyone can flirt .... even if only a little. Flirting is a sign of confidence and even if you're feeling a teensy bit shaky, give it a try. Practice makes perfect and flirty. You don't have to be smooth, just sincere.

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3 Powerful Tips To Take Contacts Number Without Rejection

Hi Friend, It sounds obvious, but if you don't get off your butt and approach women you aren't going to have any numbers to call atthe end of the day. Many men procrastinate approaching women because they are scaredof rejection. There are many things you can do to significantly reduce yourchances of being rejected when asking woman's phone number. Hereare several...

TIP # 1 - Make rejecting you hard
This one secret alone will dramatically boost your chances ofgetting a woman's phone number... make it difficult to say no. Instead of saying, "Hey, can I get your phone number?" say, "Hey,is there a phone number I can reach you at?" Notice why the latter is better than the first? Of course there is a number you can reach her at so she will haveto say, "Umm, yes, there is a phone number you can reach me atbut I don't really want to talk to you again so, no, you can'thave it." in order for her to reject you. She's not likely to want to go through all that explanation...her laziness works to your advantage. :-)

TIP # 2 - Ask with authority
Asking a question leaves you wide open for a rejection. Salesmenhave known this for a long time and that is why they will oftentell a prospect to "order now" rather than say something like "wewould really appreciate it if you would consider ordering ourproduct... please???" By not asking in question form you reduce the likelihood that shewill view it as a yes or no question. A friendly "Hey, let me get your number" demonstrates much moreconfidence and charisma than "Can I get your number???" whichplaces you slightly below her on a psycho-social level (becauseshe has all the power in that situation - you are in a slightlyneedy/begging position).

TIP # 3 - Have a reason to contact her
While you are talking to her pinpoint one of her interests. Then,when it's time to leave say something like, "I had a great timetonight, hey, let me get your number so that we can [her interesthere] sometime." For instance, if you are one of the luckiest men alive and herinterest turns out to be football you would say, "Hey, let me getyour number so that we can go to a football game sometime." Now in order for her to say "no" she will also have to turn downan invitation to an activity that she already said that shereally enjoys. The great part about using this tip is that you also have thefirst date set up... So now you know how to get a woman's phone number but there is alot more to the dating game than that. If a woman isn't attractedto you then having her number won't matter because therelationship isn't going anywhere anyway! Creating attraction is EVERYTHING.

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Wednesday, October 24, 2007

The Magic Approach

It’s not about words, it’s not about looks, it’s not even about the first impression. The approach is all about the attitude. Most guys go in with the wrong one – and the fact that “openers” usually put you in the wrong frame doesn’t help. However, once you get over the initial stumbling block of fear, you’ll realize openers are easier than you’d ever imagined.

An Insightful Moment
I was having a conversation with a buddy of mine, one who lived in Japan a number of years.
He’d just broken up with his fiancĂ© and we were talking about getting back in the game, back on the horse, drowning his sorrow in sex.
So naturally we were talking about openers, and I was curious – what did he think the best opener was for Japanese girls.
His answer was extremely revealing – “hi” seemed to work about as well as anything could.

The Japanese Example
Now my buddy was making a joke about how easy it is to get Japanese girls as a Westerner in the country, but I KNOW that’s not necessarily true – plenty of other friends had all sorts of problems getting ANYWHERE with women over there. And these weren’t ugly guys – some of them were quite handsome, and a number of them were even fluent in the language. In fact, a bunch of them didn’t get NEAR the same amount of women they got at home.
So it’s not like every woman has a big “Take Me Western Man” sign over her head.
HOWEVER, a lot of guys have heard this stereotype and buy it. They go to Japan thinking that every woman IS crazy for Americans, and will jump at the chance to be with one.
And you know what? For those guys, that becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. They DO end up with a large bevy of Asian beauties hanging off their arms.
It’s not because they’re foreign. It’s because they BELIEVE being foreign makes a difference.
They approach women with the perfect attitude – one which assumes the woman wants you, but isn’t very bothered because there are plenty of other women too.
They don’t go out of their way to be clever or open with a bang or anything like that – they don’t believe they need it.
Instead, they just talk to women they find attractive, and see if they can have fun with those women.

Problems with lines, expectations, and nerves
So many guys try to think of the perfect opener, spend hours working on a few, and then they never seem to work the way they’re supposed to.
That’s because it’s an OPENER – and women can sniff it a mile away.
And it doesn’t smell good.
Plenty of other guys get nervous before approaching – whether it’s been a long time, or they’ve had some bad experiences recently, or they are just plain inexperienced.
They are thinking “Don’t be weird, don’t be weird, don’t be weird” over and over.
Guess what that does? Makes ‘em weird.

E-lim-inate the Negative
Those negative mantras that fill your head always have you RUNNING from certain ways of being, instead of naturally BEING a way – any way, really, is better than AVOIDING a way.
So stop worrying about what you’re going to say – and just SAY something.
Stop wondering if your breath stinks, and LOOK HER IN THE EYES when you talk (you should take care of your breath earlier anyway – and halitosis is easier to overcome than conveying weakness or insecurity).
Don’t be scared of offending her – and instead HAVE FUN. Be playful, be naughty, say what entertains you – chances are she’ll be entertained too. And if she’s not, chances are still good she’ll notice your balls, saying what most people are scared to. And if she actually IS offended, unless you’ve been reciting the KKK Doctrine, you know she’s a humorless person who you wouldn’t want to be with anyway.
There’re better girls right around the corner. Or maybe in the very same group.

Ak-sen-chuate the positive
Roosevelt would say it like this: “There’s nothing to fear but fear itself.” The only thing that can make things go bad is if you’re SCARED they’ll go bad.
You’ll sabotage yourself. Just about every time.
The entire key to approaches – everything, all of it – is to come with RELAXED CONFIDENCE. Have the guts to have fun. Don’t be scared of losing a girl who you never had to begin with.
Just ENJOY yourself. Humans are very reactive creatures, so if you’re enjoying YOURSELF, people around you will feel that and start to enjoy THEMSELVES as well.

From the inside out
Now if you’re all scared and jumpy and nervous, you’ll cause the same reaction in the people around you and they’ll try to get the hell away as fast as they can.
Just RELAX. And say hi. And enjoy the ride – because if you’ve got the confidence to say what you think, the playfulness to enjoy yourself, and the relaxed attitude to erase tension, you’re going to have a VERY fun ride.
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Sunday, October 21, 2007

Secrets of Talking With Women - Part 2

Silence is nice, but… let’s talk

Still, sometimes you will find yourself in need of something to talk about. And your mind will be blank. You know the time for conversation is here – but you’re clueless how to start it.
Well, this is one of the reasons I recommend avoiding dinners and traditional dates, and prefer shared activities. Especially in fun cool areas. Who needs to worry about conversation when there’s a man on a leash walking in front of you on the sidewalk, or a shop window with a dismembered mannequin head smeared with lipstick wearing a Ronald McDonald wig and a sign saying “Love me?”
If you can’t think of anything to say in stimulating areas, then you’re just not trying. Or you’re freaking – in which case you need to use one of your relaxation triggers to get yourself CALM and able to THINK.
Come on, some of our granddaddies kept their heads with the enemy shooting at them. You can do it with an attractive lady.
But you can’t ALWAYS be in a Greenwich Village knockoff. Sometimes you need to come up with topics all by your lonesome, right?
Wrong. See, the definition of conversation is you have to have at least two people. And that dynamic helps a lot.
Having the conversation SHE wants, every time
Lets borrow a trick from sales, where the seller needs to establish a friendly connection quickly. How do they do it?
They listen for key words in statements they hear. And you can do the same. One simple sentence from your favorite lady can lead to a night’s worth of dialogue.

“No, I’m not. Or were you offering? I barely know you, and already you bring psychotropic drugs into our relationship? Wow, you are one crazy chick.”
(She should be laughing, if you delivered it right and she isn’t a nun.) “No, I don’t do drugs on a first date!” (key word: take your pick, drugs or date)
“Oh, but on the second you jump right in? You’ve said two things, and they both relate to illicit substances. Get your mind out of the gutter and learn to enjoy life clean too.” (Then order her a beer).
See what’s going on? Just pick a key word from her conversation, and riff off it. The above doesn’t apply because it’s too early in your duologue, but even within a few minutes of talking to ANYONE you’ll hear them use keywords that are important to THEM for whatever reason. Hook onto those and she’ll think you’re the greatest conversationalist ever – because all you talk about is what interests HER.

“That dog smells like a Thai sewer.” (key word: Thai)
“And how would you know? When were you in Thailand?”
“Last month, actually. It’s insane!” (key word: insane)
“And that’s what attracted you about it? You wanted to find others as crazy as you are?”
“No! I went to get my scuba diving certification.” (key word(s): scuba diving, and you have a topic for the next 15 minutes that you KNOW she wants to talk about).


Pretty easy, eh? In fact, it’s so easy, I’m going to make your homework nice and simple. Go out and have five conversations where you cue the other person off their keywords.
Have five more where you NEVER start a topic, and see how the silence feels, bearing in mind that you are SEEKING it.
Finally, pick five interesting eclectic spots near you, and go for a walk in them. Just comment in your head on what you see.
That’s it. Enjoy your new expression of personal wit and get out there and impress some ladies with it. You’re ready.
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Secrets Of Talking To Women - Part 1

Most of us have endured some silences in our relations with women we wish hadn’t happened. Well, first, you don’t have to be scared of silences, because they can be helpful. And second, there are ways to get a sparkling conversation going from next to ZERO material.

Let’s Take a Moment to Look Left

Brief related tangent time: one question I get asked a lot is “What should I talk about?”

Sure, now you know HOW you’re supposed to talk, but so many guys get stuck on WHAT to talk about. After all, those dead silences are murder for attraction, right?

First off, not so fast bad-mouthing silence. More on that later.
Second, it REALLY doesn’t matter WHAT you talk about, so long as you make it interesting. I’ve said this again and again, but let me stress it now: you can talk about ANYTHING and it’ll be ok.
You can tell a date her butt looks HUGE in that dress. Say it right and she won’t walk out or slap you, she’ll laugh.
You can wonder aloud whether postal workers get high on stamp glue.
You can go on for half an hour about the off-color corner of that rare Elvis stamp you have framed on your wall… well, ok, maybe not that one. If you talk at length about certified punchline hobbies, you might be in trouble.
Unless you’re making fun of them, of course.

Can stupid stuff work? You betcha.

But seriously, this isn’t rocket science. This isn’t even high school science, despite how often the word “chemistry” gets bandied about.
When I was still studying these skills, some of my “natural” friends would tell me lines they’d used with great success. I didn’t believe it. The things they related to me sounded so… DUMB, I couldn’t fathom an attractive intelligent woman would go for them.
Then I saw these guys in action. Sure, I could HEAR the stupidity of some of the lines – the corniness, the transparency, the if-this-were-in-a-Bond-movie-I’d-groan-now quality to them.
Still, they worked. I had new respect for groaners in Bond movies.
The key was ALL in the nonverbal delivery, as we’ve talked about at length.
Ok, so now that I’ve hopefully reminded you not to worry too much about the actual content, let me add sometimes you don’t need content AT ALL.

The Golden Silence is as good as the Golden Tongue

Strange, eh? I have one friend who isn’t a gabber, who doesn’t like to partake in anything CLOSE to small talk. And when he’s out with women, there are numerous silences.
And it WORKS. Why? Because he’s comfortable with it.
Listen, reality is all about perception. If you’re scared of awkward silences, they become awkward. If you aren’t, the silences become NATURAL. And that kind of thing stinks of relaxed confidence.
When you’re relaxed and comfortable enough to let a silence come and it DOESN’T BUG YOU, it communicates all sorts of positive things. Relaxed Confidence. Real (no games). Uh, we need a new word here, not gravity, but the opposite of frivolity. But while staying playful. We’ll call it gravolity.
To be clear, don’t overdo this. If you never say anything, well, you’re just boring. But don’t be scared of the occasional silence, or letting the lady start a topic and playing with it. (My silent friend does this all the time – and pretty soon, the women are starting all sorts of conversations and he’s viewed as fascinating because they’re talking about things they like to talk about. Who started the conversation never really enters into their head.)
(Hey, by the way, did you know that psychological studies say that the person who is LEAST comfortable with silence in a group – and hence breaks it – is almost always the MOST insecure? Still want to fill every last second of air time?)

To be continue...

Thursday, October 18, 2007

The Best Flirting Tips

The Best Flirting Tips

10. Flirting is an attitude: A good flirt is self-confident and not afraid to take risks. Be enthusiastic and positive, it works!

9. Start a conversation: The best opening line is saying hello. Talk about he surroundings, ask a question, ask for help, state an opinion.

8. Have fun: Be playful, light-hearted and spontaneous. Show your vulnerability.

7. Use props: Never leave home without a prop. Props are natural conversation starters. They encourage conversation and others will be compelled to start talking to you. Great props include: dogs, kids, unusual jewelry, a fabulous scent, a sweatshirt with your favorite passion, interesting ties, hats, or an interesting book or newspaper.

6. Be the host: Change your behavior from the role of guest to host. You are not the passive person in waiting, but rather the welcome committee.

5. Make the first move: Move closer to the person you want to meet. Say hello!

4. Listen: You have two ears and one mouth because you should listen twice as much as you speak. Listening is a true art. Your flirting partner will be drawn to you. Everyone loves to be heard.

3. Eye contact: Make eye contact, but please look your partner in the eye gently (no more than
2-4 seconds) and then glance away. Don't stare - it's a turn off.

2. Compliment: Compliment your flirting partner. The best compliments have the element of surprise. The "flirtee" will know that you really noticed them. Remember, your compliments must be honest, sincere and genuine. When you receive a compliment the best response is merely, Thank You!

1. Smile: It is contagious. It will make you so much more approachable. A smile lights up your face and draws people to you.

Try It Now and Enjoy the Results.

Wednesday, October 17, 2007

The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...

Some guys don't pay enough attention to the mindset required to attract women. They're all caught up in pickup lines, and "how to be a pickup artist."
Guys, no matter what "reality" television tells you, the world is governed by some very specific laws.

Here are a few of them:
1) Pickup lines don't work.
They are simply a tool that most guys latch on to as a "technique" for starting a conversation with a woman. There never has been "seven magic words" or any clever hypnotic pickup lines that make women drool with desire over you.
Don't fall for it.

2) Being a pickup artist does not get you laid.
Yep. You heard it first here.
The guys that try and play with your reality by promising you visions of "pickup artist" heaven - where you can use a few clever lines to get a girl to make out with you...
... Well, that's just what it looks like from the outside. On the inside, the story is very different.
What they don't tell you is about the countless nights spent learning a single skill to spark a woman's interest, and how many times they had to crash and burn to get it right.

The Most Effective Way To Win Her Heart:

Tuesday, October 16, 2007

Palm Reading Pick Up

Grab a book on palm reading at your local bookstore and study it :P The trick is you dont have to memorize a ton of useless crap.

Always probe, once you/ve got the basics down, next time you're at a bar and you get good vibes from girl, smile, grab her hand, look at it, and say, "Hmm I see something very interesting about you" The key now is to shut up and let her respond. She'll almost always ask what, to which you reply by reading her palm. You might want to throw in to spice it up.. " and i can see you're a very sexual person." Most girls will think you're got psychic or at least think you're a fun guy. Remember, be light and playful.

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Monday, October 15, 2007

How to pick up women at the bookstore

Hey guys, let me share the effective pick up skills to pick up women at bookstore.

Bookstore are great place to picking up a women because you ussually find a smarter, more imaginative ones there. WOmen usually hang out in the art, sex, romance, or new age sections so hang around those areas especially. The key to pick-up is noticing what she's reading and take an interest in it.

Simply say. " I was curious about that book you're reading, is it any good?" She might ask you why, simply say, " Well, I have an interest in that subject..." and then make something up. She's interested in the subject too because she's reading about it so you'll both have something in common. After that i suggest you read her palm ( Palm reading pick-up ) Stay tune i'll post it in the next coming post. cya guy

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Sunday, October 7, 2007

Angelion - How to get her noticed about your pics comment

Well, let me tell you guys a story " personal story ".

"A" met a girl name Cammy from d internet. She was consider 8 out of 10, just abit short if not she will get 10. She is hot. So How "A" tackle her on the internet networking site. whereby so many friends in her network list?

"A" give her a pic comment slightly different from others (Do survey on all the others pic comment)

But How?
- Look clearly to her pic.
- Choose a special thing or object for complimentation. E.g. Earing, Hair, smile, lips, necklace, color of the eyes, posing and etc. (important. never say i like ur boobs, ass or i want 2 lick you)
- Use emotional words to compliment her pics
E.g ( Instead of using " You look so good in the pink color shirt "
better use " You look So Beautiful in this pink color shirt")

E.g ( Instead of using " you have a pretty eyes"
better use " You have the most beautiful green eyes on the world, How many souls u have
been taken down? :P )

E.g - You are everybody DREAMGIRL

E.g - You look gorgeous and adorable

And more...

Let me know if this works for u.. feel free 2 drop me a comment .. All the best guys..

Thursday, October 4, 2007

Have any of these situations ever happened to you?

  • You saw a girl on the street you really wanted to meet, but you just didn’t know how to approach her.
  • You were having a “normal” (in other words, boring) conversation with a girl, but you didn’t know how to turn it into sexual attraction or interest?
  • You finally met a girl you really liked, but she only thought of you “as a friend”.
    You began talking to a girl and had chemistry with her, but you had no idea what made it work.
  • You were hanging out with a woman and you just knew this was the time to kiss her… but you had no idea how to “make your move”?
  • You finally began dating a girl that you really liked, yet she fell out of interest for you, and you felt helpless to turn things around.
  • You had a girlfriend or wife who cheated on you behind your back.
  • You knew a beautiful girl who was with a “player” or a “bad boy jerk” who was bad for her.

Wednesday, September 26, 2007

Angelion Said

Hi guys, i had added a few features in my blog today.. hehe i added in a chat box just at the right hand side of the blog.. an a video clips... with two hot girls dancing with themself... Aren't they hot and sexy.. Wont you want to take her home? Hell yes for me :P Why i put the video in? Is to let you guys know that... with the knowledge of seducing or attraction.. you can bring them home without paying any cost.. Just imagining now... (She is lap dancing infront of you, holding her waist, spanking her ass .. thats what she like haha) Well keep visiting my blog ..there are more good stuffs coming in Tips of melting her heart... for free.. no worries.. hmmm i think i should offline now.. tired.. recently busy with work.. damn until no time to date.. currently i am engage with 3 girls... 1 of them keep complaining i no msg her and no time to date her.. :( tell you more about them next time... c ya..

Sunday, September 23, 2007

The Dirty Seduction Secret- Create Moments of Distress and Anguish‏

Being just "nice" to a girl may draw her to you since it feelssoothing and comforting to her, but it doesn't make her feel SEXUALfeelings for you. Creating that erotic feeling depends more on just being nice,getting rapport, and making her feel comfortable. Erotic feelingdepends on the creation of TENSION. Without tension, without her feeling a little anxiety and suspense,there can be no feeling of release of true pleasure and joy. And your greatest power in seduction is your ability to turn away,to selectively withdraw, to delay a woman's satisfaction and makeher come after you. You want the woman to engage her own will inall its force, to become an active participant in the seduction. And the only way to accomplish this is to take a step back and makethem want to possess you, so that they will willingly advance intoyour arms. And here's how to do it.

Consider step one "the bait". Here you need to bait the woman witha promise or reward, whether be the hope of physical pleasure, thesocial proof of being associated with you, or simply mildattraction to you. Most guys get no farther than this- they entertain her peer group,read her palm, touch her, tell her some interesting stories, andgive her good feelings. But creating good feelings is not enough. You need to take it away.

Once, you have her affection, comfort, or slight attraction, yournext task is to create a moment of anguish. The feeling can beintense or subtle, by physically pushing the girl away, turningyour back on her, or falsely disqualifying yourself. You areliterally creating physical or emotional space between yourself andthe girl. Of course, you're not blatantly brushing the girl off or acting toocold, you're just creating a moment of slight doubt. Creating distance is like pumping raw jet fuel into the attractionmachine. Because it's in the ABSENCE where intense attractionhappens. It's when you are alone at night in your bed thinking about thegirl that you drive yourself crazy for her. And it's when you create space between yourself and the girl thatshe is driven crazy for YOU. All intense love and attraction is born out of moments of turmoiland distress. Falling in love is a mix of fear and excitement. Fear andexcitement makes you vibrate with sensation, heightens yourawareness, and is intensely erotic. The combination is a thrill. Before she can experience joy, and bliss, she has to experience itsopposite, loss. It is only in this momentary space where you giveher the feelings of erotic love, turbulent thoughts, longing, hope,and impatient expectancy. After all, an easy conquest has a lower value than a difficult one.We are only really excited by what is denied us, by what we cannotpossess. And don't worry- women will be less upset by your "push away" thanyou might imagine. In the world today, women feel starved forexperience. They crave emotion, even if it's negative. The "pain"you cause women by creating space is bracing and makes them feelmore alive. Your withdrawal will trigger her anxiety and the only way for herto relieve this anxiety is to pursue and possess you. Step backnow and you make her fall into your arms.

You create tension however not to hold it forever, but so that youcan release it. By closing the physical and emotional space again, you create mixedsignals that ignite the sexual tension and keep the woman emotionaland on edge. By closing the moment of tension or anguish, byrewarding her by connecting again, you allow for her to experiencea great release of the tension with joy. It's this back-and-forthmovement between hope and frustration that drives woman to haveintense sexual attraction to you. Create enough highs and lows and you will wear away the lastvestiges of a woman's willpower, and she will pursue you withdesperate energy. And again, don't be so "nice" all the time. You are most oftennice not out of your own inner goodness but out of fear ofdispleasing the woman, out of your own insecurity. Go beyond thatfear and you suddenly have options, like the freedom to create painand then magically dissolve it. The technique of inflicting distress and anguish works best onbeautiful women who have it easy. They are used to getting whatthey want right away by needy men, and being pushed away will comeas a real shock to them. Beautiful women in particular will chasewith particularly intense ferocity when pushed away. Sub-consciously, they secretly desire a man who will give themsomething to long for.

The Sure Fire Dating Tips

How to make women laugh

A lot of guys ask me how to be funny. After all, women all the time say they want to meet a guy who “makes them laugh”. The trick to being funny is forget “funny” and just be playful. If you’re playful, a girl will laugh. And the reason girls want to laugh is because they want to feel easy COMFORT around you. And one of the easiest ways to being playful is role play silly little fantasies in your conversations with a girl.
To give you an idea of what I’m talking about, here are some playful role playing interactions that I had on the phone with a girl.

Sabrina: "yeah I like to take showers. So can you take me to a little shower fantasy"
Derek: "Sure, but we’d use olive oil instead of water. Olive oil is good for your skin right?"
Sabrina: "I think so-"
Derek: "Yeah, but olive oil won’t come through the pipes so I’d make you sit in the tub and I dump buckets of warm, hot olive oil down your back."
Sabrina: "hmmmm"
Derek: "And slowly the tub would fill up with olive oil... and that warmth would spread all throughout your body... and then we’d jump out and our skin would be all oily and shiny"
Sabrina: "lol"
Derek: "And we’d leave olive oil footprints all over the floor as we ran around butt-naked trying to clean it up."
Sabrina: "lol. Yeah, but why waste all that olive oil when we could make a salad out of it?"
Derek: "Smart thinking, we’d dumped 40 heads of lettuce in there, a few tomatoes, a few onions, and we’d have enough Caesar salad to feed an army."
Sabrina: "lol"
See how I’m just making a rather ridiculous little story for her? And notice how it has a sexual connotation to it. When you wrap a sexual story in playfulness, women are not nearly as likely to resist it.

Derek: "So what’s your house like"
Sabrina: "I’ve got a pool in the back"
Derek: "Awesome! We can throw pool parties back there..."
Sabrina: "pool parties? uh-"
Derek: "Or better yet, I’ll dress up like Zeus and you dress up like Athena and we’ll be like gods and goddesses hanging out at the pool"
Sabrina: "lol yes! I like that"
Derek: "And we’ll fill the pool up with olive oil and get all greasy. And crush grapes with our feet. It will rock."
Sabrina: "lol"
Derek: "Yeah... and we need to get a servant to hold up one of those huge Hossanah leaves and fan us down"
Sabrina: "Yeah... and I’ll blast the air conditioner so it goes out the window into the pool."
Derek: "Damn, you’re good at this aren’t you..."
Notice how I have her laughing. Am I cracking canned jokes? No. Am I racking my brain to be funny? No. The silliness and laughter comes naturally from the playful fantasy.

Sabrina: "Yeah, I felt a spiritual connection on top of the vortex in Sedona."
Derek: "Yeah, the most interesting thing happened to me while I stood on top the vortex.... ....I was standing up there and lo and behold my cell phone rings! Yeah, it was like the angels were phoning me!!"
Sabrina: "lol"
Derek: "Yeah, and what really shocked me was that I get perfect reception on top of a mountain vortex in the middle of nowhere yet I can’t get good reception in my own apartment. What’s up with that??"
Sabrina: "lol... yeah it’s terrible"
Derek: "Anyway, I get the phone and the angels start talking to me..."
Sabrina: "What did they tell you"
Derek: "You won’t believe this, but they gave me the secret of the meaning to life"
Sabrina: "Really? And what is the secret of the meaning to life"
Derek: "That can be yours for the low price of only $499.95!"
Sabrina: "lol that’s all?"
Derek: "Well, if you knew the secret, you wouldn’t think it was worth much more than that either--"
Sabrina: "lol... no, but didn’t you notice how commercial it is in Sedona?"
Derek: "Yeah... it’s like you can walk down from the vortex having had this incredible spiritual experience and walk right into McDonalds and... SUPER SIZE YOUR FRIES!!!"
Sabrina: "hahahahaha"
So be PLAYFUL and you’ll be funny. Be PLAYFUL and she’ll laugh. Be PLAYFUL and she’ll relax. Get the idea?
Check out my 3rd Edition Seduction Science System for even more great examples of how to keep women laughing and entertained and attracted.

More powerful tips on seducing girls

Until next time,
Derek Vitalio

Handling Girls with Boyfriends‏

A lot of guys ask me, "What do I say if she tells me she has aboyfriend?" The fact is, most beautiful women have a boyfriend most of thetime. If men are like spiders trying to catch as many women intotheir web as they can, women are like swinging tree-monkeys,swinging from boyfriend to boyfriend but never letting go of thefirst without having a second lined up to grab onto. So you can'tjust ignore women with boyfriends or you'll severely limit youroptions. Most of the time if a girl says she has a boyfriend, I just ignoreit and keep gaming her like I would normally. Usually, the chickwill come around. By the way, the worst thing you can do is let itstop you dead in your tracks - the girl is testing you to see ifyou're a wuss. One technique I also like to use is a "boyfriend destroyer". Aboyfriend destroyer is especially effective if her boyfriend is notmeeting her core values and she's looking to leave him anyway andjust needs an extra nudge out. For instance, last month I met a cute black-haired beauty by thepool and she was telling me how she had just broken up with herboyfriend and how he was such a jerk. She went on about him for tenminutes straight. She was getting more and more worked up it.Besides getting bored, I didn't want any of this negativityattached to me. So I told her, "Just imagine your ex-boyfriend three inches tall,like this, standing right on the table in front of you. Now I wantyou to take your hand and smash him and crumple him up in yourhands-" She immediately squashed her invisible ex against the table andcrumpled him up before I could finish! Then I told her, "And THROW him into the pool where he willdisappear! Splash! Gone!" She threw him in and after that never said one more word about him- only that I was so "intelligent" and "sweet" and "incredible"and... well you get the idea. But some women LIKE their boyfriends and there's little you can doto neutralize or destroy him in her mind. In that case you have totake a completely different approach. (The following conversationis simplified for clarity) One girl I met at a party casually mentioned her boyfriend inconversation. I said to her, "You know, I'm really curious aboutsomething... about your boyfriend, what about him first attractedyou?" She started telling me what it was about her boyfriend that firstattracted her. She said, "Well I wasn't attracted to him AT FIRST,but it was just the way he... and the way he... and..." This isimportant, because she's giving you step-by-step instructions onEXACTLY how to seduce her! I then asked her, "When you first fell in love with this personwhat exactly did you feel?" No matter what she says, she'll lightly go into that state of firstfalling in love as she accesses it in her mind - with YOU causingthe good feeling in her. I asked her, "Where did that feeling start?" She told me in her chest (they'll usually say in their throat orstomach). Then I asked her, "From your chest, where did it go it next?" She told me it went down to her tummy. I said, "Now let me get this straight... I was actually talking toa friend of mine last week and with her when she feels she'sattracted to a person she said it starts in her throat, but for youit starts here in your chest..." I touched her chest. "And then down to your tummy right," I saidtracing my finger down to her naval. I've now just elicited HER particular process of becoming attractedand then LED her through it by tracing the path of that feelingwith my finger (and anchored that incredible feeling to my fingeras I touched her). In effect, I created the experience of "becomingattracted" for her as I traced the feeling with my finger along herskin - all with the excuse of, "Now let me see if I got what yousaid straight." I finished up with, "It's kind of weird that way... how you justbecome attracted to someone like that... as if it just explodesinside of you when it hits your tummy... but things like that canjust happen and in my opinion you should never try to fightsomething like that." As a final note, you MUST have some level of rapport when you pulla move like this. The more rapport you have with her, the bettershe'll respond and more powerful the effect will be. For even more great tips and techniques, check out my SeductionScience System, the 3rd Edition- now in instant downloadable MP3format- Everything you need to succeed with women, from finding them,approaching them, talking with them, and seducing them is all rightthere in my one program.

Derek Vitalio

Wednesday, June 20, 2007

Secrets of Making a Woman Attracted To You

The best way to a woman’s heart isn’t her stomach, nor her mother – it’s her confusion. You want a woman to wonder just a little bit where she stands with you, and to create a dynamic where she ends up coming some of the distance to feel YOU out. The best way to do this? Pushing and Pulling.
Inside the hearts of men…
There’s a Twilight Zone about a gambler who dies, and winds up in an ethereal casino.
He starts playing, and he’s winning every time, and he’s sayin’ ‘Alright! I made it to heaven!’
Then time keeps on passing, and he keeps winning and winning and never losing… until he realizes ‘Shit, I’m actually in hell.’
What exactly does that have to do with attracting women? Quite a lot, actually.
Simply put, we humans like getting what we want… but not if it’s TOO easy. If something just falls into our lap without a fight or without effort, it suddenly loses some worth. Maybe we start to reassess our first judgment, we question if it’s really worth having.
After all, if it’s this easy, then everyone would be doing it. IF it’s worth it.
Not to mention, the journey helps CREATE the worth – the more you fight for it, the more you’ll savor it.
And I’m telling you this because…?
Don’t give it up too easily
Creating worth is ALL about attracting women.
If this were the 50s and I was a mom speaking to a daughter, I’d probably tell you to play hard-to-get.
But it’s the 21st century, I’m pretty sure you’re not my daughter and I KNOW I’m not your mom, so we need something more sophisticated. And as a man, we need to be more proactive, less passive about our chances.
We need to push. And pull. Make the woman feel like a yo-yo. It’ll drive her crazy – in all the right ways, all ways which are not only PART of a successful mating dance, they’re the MOST important steps.
Let me explain a bit.
Pushing and Pulling
What’s a pull? When you say something which is hopefully a bit cocky, playful, and funny all at the same time. Like she laughs at one of your jokes, you pause, give her a half-smile and say ‘You love me.’ or ‘I want a small wedding, ok?’ or ‘That was easy – all we need now is a little privacy and a soft surface. Or do you like it hard?’
Get it? Make assumptions about how attractive you are, how much she wants to jump your bones, and use all that to PULL her towards you. Let her know how lucky she is to have found you.
And at the same time, push. Let her know it’ll never work out. Say she tells you she only dates rich men, and she asks if you’re rich. ‘Nope. In fact, you’re paying for the next six rounds. That guy over there has an expensive shirt on, maybe you should hook up with him.’
Or if she says she likes bad boys, ‘Oh, my momma wouldn’t approve. I guess the wedding’s off – if that’s what momma says, of course.’
Basically, WHATEVER she says she looks for in a man, go ahead and play the OPPOSITE.
In words only we’re talking about. This is called flirting.
Every time you PULL with a compliment, you’ve got to PUSH with a tease. The vaguer and more possibly true, the better. If you’ve given a SINCERE compliment (as they all should be anyway), you’ve REALLY got to work on PUSHING HARD with something negative.
Something like ‘I’m not surprised YOU’D say that.’
‘I’m not telling.’
‘I don’t know you well enough – and I don’t want to hurt your feelings.’
‘See, you’re doing it again.’
Don’t be nasty, be fun – and mysterious
Remember, you want to keep everything PLAYFUL. That’s the key to making everything work.
She shouldn’t have any idea if you’re serious – with both the pushes and the pulls. You’ve got to keep her guessing the whole time.
This is EXACTLY where you want her mind to be – it both causes her to devote a LOT more mental energy to you than she would otherwise, AND it makes you more interesting. Complex. And fun.
That very complexity, interest, and fun GREATLY increases your worth.
Many of the women who were MOST into me were those who LEAST knew where they stood. As you practice this, you’ll find out it’s a VERY powerful tool.
Don’t be a jerk
One of the other things it sometimes does is create INSECURITY in the woman. Now, a little insecurity can be a good thing – it adds spice, keeps everything from becoming boring and monotonous, like with our gambling friend.
But you don’t want to be cruel, and TOO MUCH insecurity can damage both the lady and your relationship with her. Don’t take this too far. If she seems to be getting genuinely upset, it’s time to pull a little bit – ‘Hey, don’t worry so much, look who I’ve decided to spend my valuable time with.’
But in general, men do WAY too much pulling, making it clear how awesome they find a woman and how much they want to be with her. Chances are very good your pulling skills (Vitalio usage) are overdeveloped.
Work in the weak link - pushing
So instead, my assignment to you is to work on your PUSHING skills. Think of different ways to say to her ‘Hey, I know the sun doesn’t shine out your ass. And I don’t need you – I can pull (British usage) a woman any time I like. And I’m not convinced we’re right for each other.’
Hint: the less you use words, the better this will work. Body language – like not facing her, or flirting with other women – is often MUCH more powerful.
So today (or tomorrow, but don’t wait any longer) go find a woman you’re VERY attracted to. And figure out a way to keep her engaged while at the same time PUSHING HARD.
You’ll get the balance between push and pull as time passes, but for the moment, practice those playful pushing maneuvers. Remember to keep it FUN – once it’s not, you’re just a bastard. Which can work – it’s one of the reasons bastards get more than their fair share of chicks – but not something I’d recommend on a human level.
Push-Pull in relationships (fledgling or otherwise)
One other thing – as you get to know a woman better and you enter the rapport stage, you shouldn’t lose the push-pull dynamic, but it should morph a bit. Into something more like reward and punishment – so you REMAIN an interesting challenge, but you use it to teach her what kind of behavior is acceptable for you.
For instance, if she’s been great, you can take her to eat her favorite food. If she’s acting moody and bitchy, you can cut your time together short – ‘I don’t appreciate this kind of behavior, and I don’t deserve it. I’ll call you later when it’s out of your system.’
Reward and punishment is a little trickier, and we’ll deal with it again at a later time. For now, focus on learning to PUSH just as well as you’ve learned to PULL.
And if you want to know more about this dynamic and how it affects other aspects of dating – up to and especially including SEX – you should check out my course SeductionScience , full of perfect examples of BOTH behaviors being used in the right way. Nothing can teach you better than trial and error in your own situations – but the next best thing is seeing how OTHERS use tactics successfully. Check it out.

Derek Vitalio

All You Have To Do Is… Act Naturally.

Most guys are either too nervous or too fake when approaching ladies. But states have significant drawbacks. The only way to defeat all those problems and have success every time is to act in a natural way. Easier said than done… but, using some of the skills I can teach you, perfectly doable.
In the Wish-I-Forgot mists of time…
I want you to take a moment and step into that time machine we call memory, and travel back to the first time you approached a girl.
Or the first time you talked to a girl with romantic intent – maybe calling her off your junior high phone list, whatever.
Now, fine-tune that machine and don’t glaze over a thing – get deeper than the facts and acts, examine the emotions and colors?
What do you see?
Does it, perhaps, involve sweaty palms and a clumsy tongue?
Eyes cast downward and body twitchy?
Thought so.
Now, much less taxing, think back to the most RECENT encounter you’ve had with a woman.
Your mom doesn’t count.
What was it like?
Was it similar to your first in any way?
Did you get jittery, even if only for a second?
Did you TALK to her while nervous?
That ain’t good.
The problem with nerves
We ALL get nervous occasionally – usually in a nice simple relationship to our experience and her attractiveness.
It doesn’t take a genius to figure out that nervousness isn’t a good thing – in fact, it’s about the WORST thing you can carry into a pick-up. Any chance of being thought of as confident or together is gone, instantly.
Now, dealing with it isn’t as easy as realizing it’s a problem.
Now the REAL nut is, nerves aren’t the only thing you have to worry about.
Playing the game?
Lots of guys have come up with their own ways to push the nerves to the side – whether it’s putting on a different persona, psyching themselves up, getting into a war mentality or what-have-you.
True, this works a little better than the big stutter – since at least you’re making contact.
But also true, if you are acting differently from your normal, non-flirting self, a woman will know it.
And unless you’ve got an indiscriminately randy lady on your hands, that false front is ALWAYS going to cause problems.
That’s why it ain’t enough to simply be RELAXED, you’ve also got to be NATURAL.
Act naturally
The biggest key, of course, is defeating your nerves.
One of the BEST methods I’ve found is through a little self-guided meditation.
I’m not going to give away all my secrets, BUT I can tell you the basics.
Once you’ve got yourself in the right state, you call up both your nervous emotions, and then your positive relaxed ones.
Then, you CONSUME your negative thoughts with your positive ones.
The result is, whenever you start to get those butterflies, you’ve conditioned yourself to call up POSITIVE RELAXED states.
Now, that might seem like the toughest part, and indeed, for you it might be.
Lose the mask
But if you’ve developed a player mode to help get rid of your flutters, than deprogramming this damaging behavior might take even more time.
Why? Because, in comparison to your earlier attempts, it’s done the job. Sure, it actually hurts in the larger scheme, but you’re used to thinking of it as something that works (albeit in a scattershot way).
When you encounter a stumbling block, you’re going to be REALLY tempted to revert.
You’ve created a comfort around this persona, and UNLESS you concentrate, your head is going to keep returning to it.
Unlike with nerves, which has NEVER had any positive reinforcement.
So now, let’s work on CONVINCING yourself that a NATURAL approach is the way to go.
Role-play time… don’t enjoy it TOO much
Say you’re a woman.
Alright, stop fondling your breasts and get serious.
Two guys come up to you, identical in nearly every way.
The only difference is, one seems to be living his life, while the other seems to be chasing you.
Which one are you more likely to be attracted to?
Yeah, whenever you put on your player mask, you are telling the woman you WANT HER. BAD.
You create a chase scenario – with you as the pursuer.
Don’t chase
It’s human nature to run when you’re being chased.
What’s more, there’s none of that sparkling mystery involved. You want her, so she can have you whenever she feels like it. Simple as that.
Compare this to the same dude, just as cool, just as charming, but he isn’t chasing you.
He’s fun without forcing it, and doesn’t have an ulterior motive.
He is who he is.
Not to mention, there’s a good bit of intrigue.
Make her think… and WORK for your attention. Don’t give it away.
‘I mean,’ the female you thinks, ‘most guys throw themselves at me. But not this one, I wonder if he’s even interested? I wonder if I can GET him interested?’
You don’t have to watch a lot of teen flicks to know guys prefer the unreachable lady, and ladies reject guys who obviously worship them.
In the movies often the guys and gals end up with the one they’re ‘supposed’ to be with and not the one who’s out of reach.
That’s not usually the way it REALLY works, though.
And even in the movies the unreachable bitchy hottie needs to BECOME reachable before she’s rejected.
As long as she’s out of reach – or thought of that way – she’s more alluring.
And it works the same way with ladies.
Put on your player face, and you are COMPLETELY reachable. And where’s the fun in that?
Again, saying it’s good to be natural and actually ACTING naturally around hot women is a very different thing. And again, if you want in on the secrets that will make all the difference, you should check out my program Opening Magic. It will change everything for you.
Derek Vitalio
Seduction Sciences

The Curiosity Hook

Conversing is hard, sometimes. Sometimes you just run out of things to say. And when this happens while you’re trying to attract a beautiful woman, it usually means death. UNLESS, of course, you are prepared with a few useful tricks to keep ANY conversation exciting and interesting, and get HER to pursue it. Once you know the way to do it, it’s easy. Hook her.
Of TV producers and women
Question: How do you know a commercial is coming up?
Answer: Egg timers. I always keep a few near my set to help time my beer and bathroom runs.
Eh, not so much.
Still, I can almost always tell when a commercial is coming. So can you. You know, the music swells, the drama builds, something important is about… to… happen… Pringles?!! Damn, I’ll have to wait.
This is where the term ‘cliffhanger’ comes from. Producers didn’t take too long to figure out the key to keeping viewers watching over ads – ask a question that they want to see answered.
And you know what? It works. It works so well, that I bet you YOURSELF have watched shows you didn’t care about, looking back on you thought they were bad to atrocious, putrid, the worst kind of TV… but you wound up sitting through the whole thing because there was always a question you wanted the answer to.
And then once you got the ‘next,’ you stuck around for the next next.
It wouldn’t surprise me if you did it this week. Today.
Hell, you could be doing it right now.
ALL TV shows use this technique, because it works REALLY well.
And you know what? You should too.
The deadly silence
Obviously, it’s best to be a master conversationalist, able to turn any topic into witty gold and any situation into magic charm.
But even the BEST conversationalist is occasionally going to find himself without something to talk about. And anyone whose skills are short of the best will find their verbal well dry a LOT more often.
When you’re trying to pick up a woman, this is VERY dangerous. She’s making snap judgments, you’ve got to prove yourself quick and attract her, keep her interest, all while the world moves around her and other men come and go (especially in bars, clubs, and the like).
You can’t think of a THING, the silence is getting awkward, and suddenly she’s saying ‘Nice to meet you,’ shaking your hand (don’t you hate when a romantic possibility shakes your hand?) and walking out of your life.
What could you have done?
Hook her, baby. Cliffhang the lady.
Elevate your game
I LOVE this technique. Even if you’ve got all the social skill of untrained apes, master the hook and women will inexplicably find themselves interested in what you’re saying.
If you can carry yourself in a halfway-decent manner, a well-placed hook or two will GREATLY magnify her interest and, subsequently, attraction.
Alright, so what kind of hook am I talking about, anyway? It’s not like you’ll keep the girl staring at you wondering if you’re going to get shot or if you’ll find a way out of the cave, is it?
No, the hooks I’m talking about hint at INFORMATION, knowledge and a future conversation that she WANTS to have.
For example, one of my favorite hooks is ‘You know, I’ve noticed something very interesting about you. I bet no one else has ever noticed it.’
That’s it. That’s all I’ll say.
Turn the tables
Now of course she wants to know what I’ve seen, what this mysterious interesting thing could be. And I can tell her.
Or I can string it along, say something like ‘I don’t know if I should tell you. I don’t know you well enough, maybe you can’t handle it.’
Now she actively WANTS to get to know you better, just so she can PROVE she can handle it and hear this unseen tidbit spoken.
Think about what that kind of attitude does for you.
Yep. It makes EVERYTHING easier. You don’t need to win her over any more – she’s HOOKED, and now she’ll be trying to win YOU over.
I call this the curiosity hook, and there are thousands more just like them.
Your mission, should you choose yada yada ya
So today, a little bit of homework. I want you to think of at least five curiosity hooks you can use to get a girl INTERESTED, but at the same time leave her wanting more.
Usually the topic will be her or her personality – basically EVERYONE is curious about how they appear to others – but beyond that, go wild. Tease. Be gentle. Be funny. Barely mention it. Harp on it. Fool around with this basic idea and come up with a bunch of ways to deliver it and get the girl interested.
Chances are good as you try them out, you’ll find certain ones work best with certain types of girls. So you’ll need your whole repertoire to be able to get that hook bit by all the different kinds of women in the world.
Hook… but also SATISFY
BUT, that’s not the end.
Sure, the cliffhanger might keep you watching, but it doesn’t help you like the show.
Not only do you need to hook her INTEREST, you need to eventually SAY something interesting and insightful. That’s what the lead-up is all about, and you don’t want her to be let down.
Luckily, this is a pretty easy thing. How can that be?
Well, humans are in general very similar, and there are a number of things you can say that will fit almost ANYONE. This is what fortune tellers do when they give a cold reading.
You go from there by paying attention to the reaction you get – and more deeply explore the things the girl finds interesting.
Like one of my favorites is ‘You put on a brave front, but actually a lot of the time you feel lonely. Your beauty creates a wall around you – some women are jealous, and most men act weird and only see your outer shell. Few people ever bother to look at the real you.’
Does that sound like you (aside from the beauty part)? Does it sound like something almost anyone could say about themselves?
Then, you pay attention to which part REALLY perks her. Does she start when you talk about women’s jealousy? You can bet she has gone through a period of ostracism by other women. The part about being treated like meat? She’s probably been harassed – either very badly or very recently (ALL beautiful women are harassed at some point, sadly, so if it was mild or long ago she probably wouldn’t react much – par for the course).
See how this works?
So, start thinking about various generic things you start with that will be true for most women – get inside their heads, think about common experiences, and go from there.
Don’t stop with just one scenario – you’ll always be able to find someone you can tell straight-off it won’t fit, and besides, many women will want to share your insight with friends.
You don’t want to get caught telling people the same thing.
Plus, you’ll want to repeat this exercise more than once on a girl.
Other than that, remember the most important part is the HOOK. Even more than the insight – because you’ve got to build the thing up first to REALLY make it magic.
And if you DO build it up, it WILL be magic.
If you want to learn more about how to use quality hooks and get get deep into the psyche of woman, you should check out my course: Seduction Science.

Your Friend,
Derek Vitalio


So many guys think you can improve your sexual quality by learning all sorts of special techniques. Sure, those are nice – but they’re closer to window dressing than the heart of the matter. What you REALLY need to do is engage her brain, activate her fantasies – and become that which TRULY turns her on.
You’ll like this exercise
I want you to close your eyes. I want you to close your eyes and continue reading through squinty eyelids that you shut whenever you get enough info to run with it.
Now, I want you to think of the HOTTEST image you can.
It can be something you’ve done, something you’ve seen done, or just something you’ve dreamt of doing.
Paint the full picture. Really let yourself go, get randy, get to the point where it’s tough to just sit there without doing something ABOUT this amazing fantasy.
Once you’ve gotten the picture firmly in your head and you’ve, uh, concluded it, take a few moments to reflect.
What was it about the fantasy that turned you on?
It’s not the size of the wave, OR the motion of the ocean?
Now I don’t claim to have ANY idea what you personally find exciting, but I’m prepared to make a few generalities that will almost CERTAINLY apply.
It might have been location-specific, or person-specific, or attitude-specific.
But it wasn’t technique-specific.
What I mean by this is, you might have been on a secluded beach with three other ladies lapping at you – but you weren’t concerned with the exact motion of the flicks of their tongues (even if you know it through vivid imagination).
If you were making out, it might have been the EXCITEMENT of doing it in a hotel pool with lots of balconies around – but not the pattern of suction she applied to your lips.
Or if you were eating sushi off some naked Asian beauty, it was the fact that you were EATING SUSHI OFF SOME NAKED ASIAN BEAUTY, and didn’t have much to do with how you held the chopsticks.
Where are we going here?
Technique isn’t important. Ok, it’s important – but only in a secondary kind of way.
You’ve been duped too long!
‘Wait,’ you think, ‘What about Susie Q. who did this thing it drove me wild, that was technique!’
Yeah, that can happen. But only when you already LIKE someone, for the most part. Susie Q. already got you excited – so you were LOOKING for something to turn you wild. You were just helping her along.
Now, there are rare instances of a woman who has such AMAZING technique that she’ll keep her men around just for that.
But trust me, those are EXTREMELY rare instances, both because of the skill necessary and because, well, most men need something MORE than the pure physical pleasure of pleasing touches.
Don’t get me wrong, the pleasing touches are wonderful – they just can’t do the job alone.
Now, bearing in mind what it is that REALLY turns men on, remember this – for women, it’s even MORE about the fantasy and LESS the physicality.
Up to ten times more, in some cases.
And what is it that most books or programs try to teach a man to help his sex life?
Yep, techniques.
Hey, it can be handy to know the 1 o’clock hot spot or the Frisbee hold… in the same way it can be handy to know where the salad fork goes.
These things can help make an event that much more special, but if you can’t COOK, they don’t mean much.
So, sexually, how do you COOK?
Simple. You’ve got to plug into your lady’s brain.
Engage her mind, find out and then ACT OUT her fantasies. Don’t worry so much about stroke order until you’ve mastered the more ephemeral parts of sex.
And how do you do that?
If I had to sum it up in two words, I’d say Inner Confidence.
You need to be so COMFORTABLE in your sexual skin that you RELAX her. So OPEN and at ease that you bypass her nerves and shyness (and most women – even gregarious ones – are shy when you get to sexual fantasies).
You need to make her feel ok being open and vulnerable with you. And you do that not through cooing and being a girlie-man – but by being open and confident and completely natural about everything.
And then you need to LEAD her.
If her comfort and trust are what open the door, you’ve gotta take her hand and help her through it.
Think about it – you can NEVER achieve this sort of openness and freedom with another spontaneously or just because you WANT to – it MUST be actively brought out by your partner.
And then, once you’ve got access to her fantasies, start making them come TRUE. Trust me, if you truly get in her head, you can make a woman orgasm without even TOUCHING her.
And if you’ve got a lady having that much fun, she’s going to INSIST on sharing the pleasure.
So now you know WHAT to do – the question is HOW?
Where’s that recipe?
The answer is from WITHIN yourself. This is entirely an inside-to-outside enterprise.
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In addition to helping you become the most confident kind of man, it covers literally HUNDREDS of other aspects of dating and romance. Best of all, it’s focused where most other books leave off – how to fulfill and KEEP a good woman satisfied and begging for more once you’ve found her.
Of course it will ALSO help you with every step from meeting to bedding – but nowhere else will you get truer advice on how to create and have a GREAT LASTING relationship – that is, if you aren’t looking to Dear Abby clones for dating advice.
Check out Blissnosis and you’ll see exactly what I mean – it will help you become a more desirable man in EVERY phase of the game.

Until Next Time,
Derek Vitalio


The next base ritual for creating a sexual connection with a woman is the ENERGY FLOW RITUAL.
So I’m sitting there alone with Charlotte and I say, “Did you know that bliss has a color? If you were to imagine bliss, what color would you give it?”
“Um… red I guess, with some swirls of blue,” she says.
“Now watch as a ball of red and swirling blue energy forms between us. This ball of energy contains all the pleasure in the world.”
“Now I’m going to take it into my hands. And once I do so, I’m going to take your hands into mine, and as you breathe in, feel all the red and swirling blue pleasurable energy enter into your body.”
That’s pacing what’s about to happen. So I take her hands into mine and tell her again that I’m passing the pleasurable energy into her.
“And as it enters your body through my hands, breathe in, and notice what it feels like as it slowly works its way through every muscle in your body… down to your elbows… up through your shoulders… around your neck… down through your body… into your heart.”
“That pleasurable, warm energy goes to that place you’ve been aching to feel touch you, deep, deep down and makes your heart beat fast with pleasure.”
“And notice as that pleasure spreads all through your body, it gets warmer and nicer, and the more it spreads, the more pleasurable it becomes.”
And as I squeeze her hands in mine, I tell her how the energy goes through all the rest of her body, through her waist, her legs, her feet.
Then I tell her, “Now, hold that incredible feeling in your body, swirling about, and feel it as if you were relaxing your body in a hot Jacuzzi, with hot water of this pleasurable energy massaging bathing skin. Send that warm pleasure rippling through your entire body. Surrender to it.”
“Now you’ll notice that a special connection is taking place, which when we share together becomes stronger.” As I say this to her, I’m massaging her fingers in mine.
“Now I’m going to show you the MELTING HUG,” I tell her.
“Hugging is wonderful because it makes you feel energized and makes your body produce more Oxytocin, which is like a feel good drug.” To the reader: Oxytocin is also the drug that surges through women’s bodies when they become aroused and when they experience orgasm.
“With this connection we’ve experienced so far, do you trust me?”
“Okay, come into my arms.”
I don’t lean in to her, but command her to lean into me.
“Don’t look into me eyes, just relax. At first you’ll feel tense, but that’s how you’ve learned to hug. But then you’ll feel a surge of electricity and excitement from being so close to me.”
“But just relax and feel your body melting into mine until you become totally absorbed in the connection taking place. And allow the warmth of my voice and the warmth of my arms to wrap themselves around you, making our connection even deeper. Breathe in to all parts of your body.”
So we hug there in the melting hug, my protective arms around her. It is truly a special moment.
You might recognize that the Melting Hug as the first step in a progression of touch escalation. You’re right.
After the Melting Hug, you’ll want to end the session with her. You don’t want to do too much in one day. She’ll already have had a profound experience and if you do too much at once it will seem weird.
The next rituals however will steadily increase the amount of intimate touch. After all, you don’t want to create just a friendly connection, you want to create a SEXUAL connection. And that requires a lot of touching.
But with the rituals done so far, you’ve established the basic foundation of trust and comfort with a woman. She’s shared an experience with you that is unique and very powerful.
And whether you’re seducing the woman for the first time or whether you’re already in a sexual relationship with her, these sexual connection rituals will build your authority and power in her eyes.
For more on how to build sexual relationships, you’ll want to check out my Blissnosis Master Program. Blissnosis gives you a lot more routines and techniques for transforming women into your sexual fantasy and building a special connection in your relationships.

Until next time,
Derek Vitalio