The Dirty Seduction Secret- Create Moments of Distress and Anguish‏

Being just "nice" to a girl may draw her to you since it feelssoothing and comforting to her, but it doesn't make her feel SEXUALfeelings for you. Creating that erotic feeling depends more on just being nice,getting rapport, and making her feel comfortable. Erotic feelingdepends on the creation of TENSION. Without tension, without her feeling a little anxiety and suspense,there can be no feeling of release of true pleasure and joy. And your greatest power in seduction is your ability to turn away,to selectively withdraw, to delay a woman's satisfaction and makeher come after you. You want the woman to engage her own will inall its force, to become an active participant in the seduction. And the only way to accomplish this is to take a step back and makethem want to possess you, so that they will willingly advance intoyour arms. And here's how to do it.

STEP 1- CREATE A MOMENT OF JOY
Consider step one "the bait". Here you need to bait the woman witha promise or reward, whether be the hope of physical pleasure, thesocial proof of being associated with you, or simply mildattraction to you. Most guys get no farther than this- they entertain her peer group,read her palm, touch her, tell her some interesting stories, andgive her good feelings. But creating good feelings is not enough. You need to take it away.

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STEP 2- CREATE MOMENTS OF ANGUISH
Once, you have her affection, comfort, or slight attraction, yournext task is to create a moment of anguish. The feeling can beintense or subtle, by physically pushing the girl away, turningyour back on her, or falsely disqualifying yourself. You areliterally creating physical or emotional space between yourself andthe girl. Of course, you're not blatantly brushing the girl off or acting toocold, you're just creating a moment of slight doubt. Creating distance is like pumping raw jet fuel into the attractionmachine. Because it's in the ABSENCE where intense attractionhappens. It's when you are alone at night in your bed thinking about thegirl that you drive yourself crazy for her. And it's when you create space between yourself and the girl thatshe is driven crazy for YOU. All intense love and attraction is born out of moments of turmoiland distress. Falling in love is a mix of fear and excitement. Fear andexcitement makes you vibrate with sensation, heightens yourawareness, and is intensely erotic. The combination is a thrill. Before she can experience joy, and bliss, she has to experience itsopposite, loss. It is only in this momentary space where you giveher the feelings of erotic love, turbulent thoughts, longing, hope,and impatient expectancy. After all, an easy conquest has a lower value than a difficult one.We are only really excited by what is denied us, by what we cannotpossess. And don't worry- women will be less upset by your "push away" thanyou might imagine. In the world today, women feel starved forexperience. They crave emotion, even if it's negative. The "pain"you cause women by creating space is bracing and makes them feelmore alive. Your withdrawal will trigger her anxiety and the only way for herto relieve this anxiety is to pursue and possess you. Step backnow and you make her fall into your arms.

STEP 3- RELEASE THE TENSION
You create tension however not to hold it forever, but so that youcan release it. By closing the physical and emotional space again, you create mixedsignals that ignite the sexual tension and keep the woman emotionaland on edge. By closing the moment of tension or anguish, byrewarding her by connecting again, you allow for her to experiencea great release of the tension with joy. It's this back-and-forthmovement between hope and frustration that drives woman to haveintense sexual attraction to you. Create enough highs and lows and you will wear away the lastvestiges of a woman's willpower, and she will pursue you withdesperate energy. And again, don't be so "nice" all the time. You are most oftennice not out of your own inner goodness but out of fear ofdispleasing the woman, out of your own insecurity. Go beyond thatfear and you suddenly have options, like the freedom to create painand then magically dissolve it. The technique of inflicting distress and anguish works best onbeautiful women who have it easy. They are used to getting whatthey want right away by needy men, and being pushed away will comeas a real shock to them. Beautiful women in particular will chasewith particularly intense ferocity when pushed away. Sub-consciously, they secretly desire a man who will give themsomething to long for.

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